Is crying a sign of strength, weakness, or is it a sign at all?
Is crying in front of your colleagues a sign of trust and close-knitted work environment, or does it make you think that the job cuts are on the horizon and your cigarette body cannot cope with it? The short polemic between Dan Hill and Ros Toynbee on the pages of Professional Managers magazine made me think about the current emotional climate in the country and the ways of dealing with our emotions publicized in media. A new advert on the tube offers sleeping drops which would rid me off the obsessive thoughts that keep me up at night. Ros Toynbee suggests emotional diversion and pep-talking ourselves. I believe it is important to be able to reason with yourself and maintain a certain work façade albeit for a short while. However, if I am continuously feeling like crying at work, it may be that the time has come not to take the diversion rout, but come to a halt all together, pause and reflect on what is in my tears. A good old fashioned ‘why am I crying?’ may be a fruitful place to start from.
Seeking professional support to move forward is another option. Having had several experiences of personal therapy, I could say there is a lot of self-knowledge that I have gained out of it. Recession, job cuts, riots, all those recent events were met by me and my colleagues in either passive or aggressive way. However, at the heart of our anger or sorrow were tears. Due to the still lingering stigma they are not easy to access. Tears can be viewed as the first sign of depression and the journey downhill. Tears can also be viewed as a sign of emotional strength and ability to express you. Whatever the reaction of those around you may be, attending to your emotional needs while feeling tearful is the most important thing.
Tears are the lighthouse in the ocean of emotions, and to ignore it would be foolish if not fatal. If you are not the type to walk around smashing things up, you may want to (amongst many other things) drawn your tears in a pint, sweat them off in the gym, or engage in a stimulating conversation with a comfortably small group of friends at a home-cooked meal. Whatever you choose to do, being aware of your actions really brings a new dimension to the work-life balance. Personal therapy helped me achieve it.