Dr Adela Apetroaia

BSc in Psychology, MA in Psychology, PhD in Social/Health Psychology, CPsychol (Chartered Psychologist with the BPS)

My Philosophy

I believe strongly that happiness is dependent on two factors: staying true to oneself and having good relationships. Having secure relationships can help you achieve more, become more of who you are, and live a bigger, better life.

I also believe that you are the one who holds the answers to your concerns and that my job is to help you figure out what these answers are. My job is also to help you stay committed to these goals and to help you achieve them through small, sustainable changes in your thoughts, communication patterns, and behaviours.

Working Style

My approach is based in the most recent scientific study of close relationships and it combines insights from cognitive behavioural therapy, life coaching, attachment theory, self-expansion-theory, solution-focussed therapy, and a person-centred approach.

In other words, I will spend a lot of time listening to you, to help you uncover your best strategies for relationship success. I will make recommendations based on your personal profile and on cutting-edge research in psychology. I will help you make changes, one day at a time. I will not impose my worldview on you, and, instead, I will help you achieve your relationship goals, no matter what they are. I will help you learn new ways of reading interpersonal situations, new ways of communicating with others, and new ways of presenting yourself in the best possible light.

The balance between independence and interdependence is crucial in romantic relationships as well as parent-child relationships. As the Love Doctress, I offer relationship advice to couples and individuals who want to improve their romantic relationships. At Secure Base London, I offer relationship-based advice to parents who want to help their children navigate a series of problems, from anxiety to bullying or learning difficulties. Finally, I also offer attachment and relationship assessment for other specialists.

Professional Experience

I have more than twelve years experience of working directly with children, couples, and families, following the highest standards of good practice and confidentiality. This experience includes working for the Bucharest Early Intervention Project, one of the largest longitudinal studies of the effects of early relationships on later development. Most recently I worked as a postdoctoral research assistant for the Berkshire Child Anxiety Clinic, designing studies aimed at improving treatments for child and adolescent anxiety. I have also developed a series of methods for assessing attachment relationships, beliefs, and behaviours, and co-authored studies published in the journal of Attachment and Human Development.

Qualifications and Training

I have a PhD in Social/Health Psychology with a concentration in Close Relationships from Stony Brook University, New York. My mentors include Professors Art Aron, Ted Carr, Charles Zeanah, and Everett and Harriet Waters.

I am a Chartered Psychologist with the British Psychological Society, which is ‘the benchmark of professional recognitions for psychologists and reflects the highest standards of psychological knowledge and expertise’.

I have a primary accreditation in Rational-Emotive Behavioural Therapy with the Albert Ellis Institute in New York and I have taken a course in life coaching with The Coaching Academy in London. I am also a member of the British Association for Behavioural and Cognitive Therapies.