Self-esteem is our ability to value ourselves. Paradoxically, the value you place on yourself will reflect how much others appreciate and listen to what you have to share. You may think that your opinion is not important. You may be used to people talking over you while in class or in a business meeting. You may feel taken for granted and unable to express the frustration and anger which is accumulating in you.
If you feel now is the time to look into how you might want to change this state of affairs, you may want to begin by getting used to the idea that you are unique and special and there is no other person like you are, even if you are a twin! The first, the hardest, and yet the most important step to take is to toy with the idea of loving and accepting yourself the way you are.
Noticing when others compliment you and trying to take it in is another step towards improving your self-esteem. If you shift your focus from the negative to the positive aspect of your daily communication with those around you, you may be surprised at the things you have chosen not to notice up until now.
Spoiling yourself on a very small scale to begin with may seem frightening and unnecessary to you right now. You may be used to putting others first and making personal sacrifices to please others in order to be liked. Try investing all these energy into getting to know yourself, your likes and wants. Begin by getting a strawberry-flavoured ice-cream you can never make time to buy!
Making mistakes and forgiving yourself for it is another milestone on the road to improved self-esteem. As the saying goes, to err is human. If you think about child development there would be hardly any learning taking place if there was no process of trial and error.
Taking steps to getting to know the inner you will surprise and transform your attitude towards yourself, which is a key to the rest of the transformations you are dreaming of.